Someone has aptly said that too much or too little of something is harmful. In today’s fast-paced and competitive world social media is excessively used by people and this can cause a frequent visit by the little green-eyed monster (envy).
Have you ever noticed that when we get too engrossed with social media and look at the pictures of our friends or known enjoying foreign trips, getting married, having a good time with their friends or special someone, feelings of comparison and in some cases jealousy enters our minds with quiet steps? And specially when its festive time like Christmas, Diwali, New Year etc., our Facebook timeline almost gets flooded with celebration pictures of our known people leaving one with a feeling “I wish I could also celebrate like this, I wish I had such a happy relationship, I wish I could travel the world etc.”Sometimes it even leads you to question many things in your life in a negative way.
According to the research of University of Copenhagen excessive use of social media can lead to feelings of envy. As per the study when a survey of around 1000 participants (mostly women) was conducted they said “Regular use of social networking such as Facebook can negatively affect your emotional well-being and satisfaction with life.”
For sure there must be some kind of negative impact of lurking on social media as everything has its own pros and cons. No doubt social media has connected us well and help us know what others are up to but it is always good to sometimes take a break from social media.
One of the major impacts of too much use of social media is “unrealistic social comparisons”. Just watching the pictures and posts of others having a good time etc only lead to comparisons resulting in bad mood and a feeling of jealousy or grudges in one’s heart. Rather it is healthier and much more positive to actively interact and connect with people on social media, as suggested by the study published in journal Cyberpsychology, Behaviour, and Social Networking. So stop being a passive social media user and rather get involved in active human interactions.
Also here are some tips to save yourself from social media envy:
- Make healthy and upward comparisons to uplift yourself rather than getting consumed in the fire of jealousy
- Be congenial and appreciate other people’s achievements and be thankful for what you have
- Take frequent breaks from social media
- Use social media to stay connected with your friends and loved ones
- Limit your time on social media
- Focus on what makes you feel positive
- Distinguish advertisement from reality
First and the foremost thing to understand is to not get addicted to social media and spend long hours on it. Set your priority right. And technology is a boon so use it for your growth rather than a letting it impact you negatively. The right attitude is all you need to safeguard yourself from social media envy!