I believe that having friendships is an important aspect of teens growing years. Having friends is not as important as choosing friendships wisely. It requires making a good judgment, being perceptive and choosing judiciously. Building good and healthy friendships requires effort, commitment, and honesty.A healthy friendship will constantly be stretching, growing and expanding.

The development of a true friendship is a great feeling. There are some friendships that start well but don’t last for long and there are some that seem to withstand everything that comes and end up lasting a long time. True friends won’t bring you down or do things to get you into trouble.
The friends who will stick with you through good times and bad times are true friends. A wise friendship is characterized as a relationship between two people and is based on admiration, respect, positivity, courtesy, openness, empathy, and support.

Just as it is important to make effective decisions about other aspects of your life, such as your diet, fitness levels, tv programs, subjects and much more, it is equally important to make wise decisions with whom you have friendships with.
What does a good friendship mean to you? How do you differentiate and decide on whom to further friendships with?

There are many ancient spiritual teachings that educate us to choose our company, for it with will define who we become. We are characterized by the company we keep. Bad company potentially corrupts good habits and values. Despite what we may think of ourselves, we are influenced by the
environment we live in and the people we associate with.
So if you want to be more hardworking and studious, choose a friend who is hardworking and studious. There is a common saying;

“If you run with the turkeys, you will not soar with the eagles.”

Therefore, make wise choices starting today!


  • Choose friends who share or reflect similar values with you including positive family values. Friends mirror each other. Therefore choose friends who do not have destructive habits.
  • Avoid peer pressure. Good judgment takes place in a stress-free mental space.
  • Be determined to be your own person and choose friends that respect you for that.
  • Find friends with some similar interests. It would be helpful if you had some things in common. Do choose friends with diverse positive qualities that will lead you to positive growth, who will help you to discover new ways of doing things and help you to overcome challenges in a constructive manner.
  • Recognize the differences in healthy and unhealthy friends and decide which friends you want to stay connected with.

Define and know what you want in a friend. Seek out those qualities. You will appreciate these friendships when you are clear about the important aspects that provide the pillars for a wise friendship.